My Kind of Country

Country music from a fan's point of view since 2008

Cryin’ time

Martina McBrideI’ve been feeling quite down for these last few weeks, finding it difficult to both concentrate and write anything for the blog. What’s interesting about these “down times” is that I fall into a predictable pattern when it comes to my music. I always go for certain songs, or rather, certain types of songs. These songs work like therapy.

According to Martina McBride, “Life is a roller-coaster ride”, and while I’m descending (or sometimes plunging) into the depths of the darker side of life, my music tends to be insanely sunny. When I’m riding along the rails at rock-bottom depths, my listening habits usually takes a turn to the far more depressing depths of the musical pool, with songs like Dolly Parton’s “Not For Me” and Loretta’s “Miss Being Mrs.” in constant rotation. As the trolley starts its uphill climb once more, the mood of my music shifts to more of a mildly positive mood.  Faith Hill’s “A Room In My Heart” and Chely Wright’s “Deep Down Low” are two favorites of mine.

I think this is very interesting, because my mind seems to be seeking out its own therapy during the hard times.  For instance, I believe I listen to sunny music as I’m about to go into a slight depression as an attempt to counter balance my darkening feelings. Listening to very depressing music is sort of uplifting during the most depressing times, because I find it comforting to know that “there’s someone worse off than me”, however cruel that might seem.

Now, I might be over-analyzing (and coming across as very bipolar), but these habits seem pretty natural to me, and I do believe that music helps me through sad times. That’s why I sometimes pity those who don’t listen to music much.

What are some of your musical habits when feeling “down”?

Listen to “Not For Me”, “Deep Down Low”, “Sunny Day”, and “Down”.

11 responses to “Cryin’ time

  1. Erik March 13, 2009 at 2:01 pm

    Thanks to J.R for inspiration on the title!

    • Leeann Ward March 13, 2009 at 2:22 pm

      Glad to see you back to blogging. This is worth exploring. I’ve never really been able to pinpoint my listening habits with specific emotional points in my life. I just know that music is always there. Like you, I pity those who don’t get pleasure from music, because it really is a great theraputic tool.

    • J.R. Journey March 14, 2009 at 4:35 pm

      No problem. Glad to see you posting, but it’s too bad it took the dark times to bring out the literary part of you.

      Just a side note: ‘Cryin’ Time’ is also the title of a song that’s been recorded by Ray Charles, Buck Owens, George Jones & Tammy Wynette, Lorrie Morgan, LeAnn Rimes, and many more artists.

  2. Occasional Hope March 13, 2009 at 2:40 pm

    Sorry you’ve not been feeling too great lately.

    I don’t think I deliberately seek out particular kinds of song when I’m feeling depressed, although at such times there are definitely songs which hit home harder than they do when I’m feeling happy with life. But I think on the whole that tends to be songs where the specific situation reminds me of my life.

  3. Leeann Ward March 13, 2009 at 3:07 pm

    Yeah, I think Ocasional Hope said what I meant to say. Songs definitely hit me at specific times in my life, depending on what’s happening.

  4. Chris March 13, 2009 at 5:48 pm

    Hmmm… I always find that when I’m down, Kathy Mattea’s Coal album really helps. It’s just sad enough and very good to listen to and think about the sad stories in the songs.

  5. Jane March 13, 2009 at 9:41 pm

    I tend to listen to up-beat songs when I’m feeling down. Songs like “As if” (Sara Evans), “Happy Girl”, (Martina McBride) and alot of Sugarland songs.

  6. Annie March 13, 2009 at 10:27 pm

    This was very thought provoking. When I’m sad I listen to the sad stuff. I mean I “wallow” in it! When I listen to Keith Whitley’s “I’m No Stranger To The Rain”, or, “Don’t Close Your Eyes”, it’s as though through the lyrics and his voice I can name my pain. And I think for me, that’s the beginning of the process of letting the sadness and the pain go. Also, Bruce Springsteen’s cd “Tunnel Of Love” is, from start to finish, a journey of sadness. Also, Johnny Cash’s later recordings – his version of “Danny Boy” is beautiful and heartbreaking. I would like to point out that after I pick myself up off the floor and put my bleeding heart back in my chest, I tend to finish these “sad” songs with a dose of Limp Bizkit’s “Break Stuff” and a shot of Patron. The absurdity of the lyrics make me smile and snap me out of my funk! Man, I love music!

    • J.R. Journey March 14, 2009 at 4:40 pm

      Keith Whitley was a tortured soul, Annie. And I think it comes across in his music – through his delivery of the lyric. Thanks for sharing.

  7. Billy March 13, 2009 at 11:16 pm

    When I feel down I have two stages. The first stage is self pity, which comes with slews of sad songs. Among the most popular with me are Reba’s For My Broken Heart album, Warwick Avenue by Duffy, It Only Hurts When I’m Breathing by Shania Twain, Hurt by Johnny Cash, and Broken Strings by James Morrison and Nelly Furtado.

    After a while, I start the healing process, as I call it. This is the easy category. I play my Martina CDs, her latest stuff anyway, and other upbeat happy songs.

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